How do you resolve conflict in your life?
15 "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
Conflict is inevitable, it is an aspect of life that is unavoidable, because you don't know what type of people you'll meet in life. When a conflict does arise, don't ignore and wish that it will go away like unsettled snow. The Bible says, 26 "And “don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil." (Ephesians 4:26-27)(NLT). This passage implies that you should not let your anger lead you to sin and do not stay angry all day!! Nothing good comes from it! Conflict leads to anger. This can turn to resentment and bitterness if it is not solved. These feelings aren't pleasant nor are they right. So what can you do? Well, to deal with conflict, you must confront the whom you're in conflict with. Don't approach that person angrily, implying that what they have said or done is still eating away at you, No. Approach that person truthfully, lovingly and willingly. There are three rules of confrontation that are within the bible: 19 "Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry". (James 1 19) (NLT). It's a cycle, you will be slow to anger if you are quick to listen and slow to speak!!
When your conflict is unresolved, you are only hindering your own happiness. You can't really be in conflict and happy at the same time. Be the peacemaker and don't let pride get in the way of going to that person and addressing the conflict. James 3:18 says "And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness." (NLT). Your connection with God is blurred and can become disconnected when you are in conflict with others, the Bible says, 20 "If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? (1 John 4:20) (NLT). When facing conflict, reflect on yourself, your thoughts and feelings. Are you really that sort of person to retaliate, to be easily angered, to be close minded? OR...
Are you going to be courageous and face the issue, the conflict you have been ignoring? This can be issues involving work, your home life, and whoever you may be in conflict with. The courage to do this comes from God. The Bible announces that 7 “God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” (2 Timothy 1:7) (NLT). God has given us a spirit of love, power and discipline!
Prayer:
Dear God, teach me to be slow to anger, quick to listen, and slow to speak. Lord, the words I speak are in my control. Lord, please help me to take initiative to resolve those conflict in my life. God, fill me with your spirit; with love and mercy, so I can show this towards others. In Jesus' name. Amen!!
15 "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
(Proverbs 15:1)(NIV).
Why is it that when someone gets angry we also get angry, when people raise or shout at us, we usually shout or raise our voice back at them. By mirroring their actions, you are allowing the situation to escalate ad get out of hand, soon it becomes too late. "When other people raise their voice, lower yours — in your marriage, in your parenting, in your friendships, and at work. That’s called strength under control." (Pastor Rick Warren). When you oppose to what someone has says, take a step back and reevaluate the situation for a brief moment, come back, and handle the situation in the best way. This could be done by simply walking away. This deescalates the anger. The Bible declares that, 4 "If your boss is angry at you, don’t quit! A quiet spirit can overcome even great mistakes." (Ecclesiastes 10:4)(NLT). This passage simply says, be gentle, answer gently, so that that person may be disarmed and ultimately respond calmly.
Conflict is inevitable, it is an aspect of life that is unavoidable, because you don't know what type of people you'll meet in life. When a conflict does arise, don't ignore and wish that it will go away like unsettled snow. The Bible says, 26 "And “don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil." (Ephesians 4:26-27)(NLT). This passage implies that you should not let your anger lead you to sin and do not stay angry all day!! Nothing good comes from it! Conflict leads to anger. This can turn to resentment and bitterness if it is not solved. These feelings aren't pleasant nor are they right. So what can you do? Well, to deal with conflict, you must confront the whom you're in conflict with. Don't approach that person angrily, implying that what they have said or done is still eating away at you, No. Approach that person truthfully, lovingly and willingly. There are three rules of confrontation that are within the bible: 19 "Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry". (James 1 19) (NLT). It's a cycle, you will be slow to anger if you are quick to listen and slow to speak!!When your conflict is unresolved, you are only hindering your own happiness. You can't really be in conflict and happy at the same time. Be the peacemaker and don't let pride get in the way of going to that person and addressing the conflict. James 3:18 says "And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness." (NLT). Your connection with God is blurred and can become disconnected when you are in conflict with others, the Bible says, 20 "If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? (1 John 4:20) (NLT). When facing conflict, reflect on yourself, your thoughts and feelings. Are you really that sort of person to retaliate, to be easily angered, to be close minded? OR...
Are you going to be courageous and face the issue, the conflict you have been ignoring? This can be issues involving work, your home life, and whoever you may be in conflict with. The courage to do this comes from God. The Bible announces that 7 “God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” (2 Timothy 1:7) (NLT). God has given us a spirit of love, power and discipline!
Prayer:
Dear God, teach me to be slow to anger, quick to listen, and slow to speak. Lord, the words I speak are in my control. Lord, please help me to take initiative to resolve those conflict in my life. God, fill me with your spirit; with love and mercy, so I can show this towards others. In Jesus' name. Amen!!
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