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Should we really retaliate when we get angry? 

Image result for proverbs 15: 126 "A quarrelsome person starts fights
    as easily as hot embers light charcoal or fire lights wood." (Proverbs 26: 21) (NLT).

Retaliating is a negative trait. It keeps things going on and on; it doesn't resolve anything. All it does is escalate the problem at hand. Earlier in the post I discussed that to avoid anger, you could refuse to be offended and ignore people's words that may upset you. Most people do like to argue and cause debates which then, if not careful, cases upsets. At times they use conflict to get your attention, to get your mind thinking, which causes you to question what they have said. For example, someone at work makes a remark that you strongly disagree with. What do you do? Well, simply, you could make a statement which could causes the fire to get started. Or you could refrain yourself from making that statement and not give in, because you may or may not know truly what type of person that person is. They may love a good argument, they want to get you hooked onto what their saying. Do not allow yourself to get stuck into the argument, simply walk away (go for a walk) because that person may be simply looking for an argument and nothing else. IT takes two to start an argument. IF you aren't present, nothing happens. So, if you walk away you are preventing the argument from happening!

Do what you think is right in situation where you find yourself wanting to say something, counter to what someone else has said. The Bible says, 14 "Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse." (Romans 12:14) (NIV). Yes, you must ask God to bless those people who do you wrong! Why? Because God wants us, no matter how hard it may be, to show mercy to everyone! Yes, every single human being! People may frustrate us, annoy us, hurt us, and test our patience. We shouldn't retaliate, but show them Grace! Despite what a person does to you, do what is correct. If they are mean to you, be kind to them. If they get on your nerves and pull your stings, be patient with them. Only you have control of these things. Only you can control what you do and what you say to people. Not every statement, opinion, or insult deserves a comeback. The Bible says, 9 "Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate with insults when people insult you. Instead, pay them back with a blessing. That is what God has called you to do, and he will grant you his blessing." (1 peter 3:9) (NLT). 

Prayer:
Dear Lord, please help us to bless those who cure, insult, or persecute us. Lord, I pray to show love those who do me wrong. Lord help us to love those we may find hard to love and show love to. God, help us to show mercy to everyone and remind us to treat people with kindness to have patience. Lord, help us to have control over what we say and do. Glory be to God. In Jesus' name. Amen!
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